Comments for www.YodelingMamas.com http://www.yodelingmamas.com/blog digital and domestic divas - a blog for moms, by Yahoo! moms - Yahoo! Inc.'s Yodeling Mamas Fri, 10 Sep 2010 04:37:31 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 Comment on Back to School, Back to Stay-at-Homes & Work-Outside-the-Homes by michelle http://www.yodelingmamas.com/blog/?p=1838&cpage=1#comment-1999 michelle Fri, 10 Sep 2010 04:37:31 +0000 http://www.yodelingmamas.com/blog/?p=1838#comment-1999 thanks for all the comments ... think it's one of those things that can either polarize or bring women together. same could be said for the working moms that touting career accomplishments to the stay-at-home ... or the childless couple having to listen to all their friends with kids talk about, well, their kids. rebecca: I think your point about gravitating towards the motivated set is so true, as shouldn't matter what they do. which is so disappointing when it goes sideways ... good news is there's always the ones that will surprise you :) thanks for all the comments … think it’s one of those things that can either polarize or bring women together. same could be said for the working moms that touting career accomplishments to the stay-at-home … or the childless couple having to listen to all their friends with kids talk about, well, their kids. rebecca: I think your point about gravitating towards the motivated set is so true, as shouldn’t matter what they do. which is so disappointing when it goes sideways … good news is there’s always the ones that will surprise you :)

]]> Comment on Back to School, Back to Stay-at-Homes & Work-Outside-the-Homes by Rebecca Kaykas-Wolff http://www.yodelingmamas.com/blog/?p=1838&cpage=1#comment-1988 Rebecca Kaykas-Wolff Wed, 08 Sep 2010 18:45:40 +0000 http://www.yodelingmamas.com/blog/?p=1838#comment-1988 Hi Michelle. We haven't met, but you - I believe - have worked with my husband ages ago in the earlier days at Yahoo!. At any rate, he elevated this post and I couldn't agree more. I continually struggle with - honestly - "mom" perfectionism and over commit on numerous accounts to ensure that i'm doing enough at my children's school (and yes I have overheard other moms comment on "losers" who either don't donate time or money to a classroom) and then my own business (which I was fortunate enough to have started once my third child was born two years ago). My friendships too have changed, but what I continue to realize is that I naturally gravitate toward other "moms" who are equally as motivated - either as a stay-at-home mom or work-somewhere else- mom. In any case, both situations can be isolating and perhaps that is where the discord takes shape. With children all of our lives revolve to a certain degree around their activities. I'm a college-educated, Type A and now I'm changing diapers (still) and doing laundry and mopping the floor (I suck at the housework because I never really 'did' it before kids) in between picking kids up, taking them places, volunteering and trying to run a business ;). Not a ton of time for fun or friendships in the "old" days. I just think parenthood is really difficult and I would love for more "mom" friendships that are supportive and inclusive regardless of 'status'. I think the debate is a tired one too......where did all of the women-stick-together-power go anyway...was it ever here? Thanks for the post! :) Rebecca Hi Michelle. We haven’t met, but you – I believe – have worked with my husband ages ago in the earlier days at Yahoo!. At any rate, he elevated this post and I couldn’t agree more. I continually struggle with – honestly – “mom” perfectionism and over commit on numerous accounts to ensure that i’m doing enough at my children’s school (and yes I have overheard other moms comment on “losers” who either don’t donate time or money to a classroom) and then my own business (which I was fortunate enough to have started once my third child was born two years ago). My friendships too have changed, but what I continue to realize is that I naturally gravitate toward other “moms” who are equally as motivated – either as a stay-at-home mom or work-somewhere else- mom. In any case, both situations can be isolating and perhaps that is where the discord takes shape. With children all of our lives revolve to a certain degree around their activities. I’m a college-educated, Type A and now I’m changing diapers (still) and doing laundry and mopping the floor (I suck at the housework because I never really ‘did’ it before kids) in between picking kids up, taking them places, volunteering and trying to run a business ;) . Not a ton of time for fun or friendships in the “old” days. I just think parenthood is really difficult and I would love for more “mom” friendships that are supportive and inclusive regardless of ‘status’. I think the debate is a tired one too……where did all of the women-stick-together-power go anyway…was it ever here?

Thanks for the post! :)
Rebecca

]]> Comment on Back to School, Back to Stay-at-Homes & Work-Outside-the-Homes by Linda http://www.yodelingmamas.com/blog/?p=1838&cpage=1#comment-1985 Linda Wed, 08 Sep 2010 12:51:26 +0000 http://www.yodelingmamas.com/blog/?p=1838#comment-1985 I agree that jealousy is involved but I think it is also a pretty normal way that people get to know each other. They talk about what they have in common and it seems as though what these "friends" have in common is the school gossip. This could change over time or not. I worked for many years and found some real friends who actually care about what is going on with me. However, most people were just acquaintances who shared nothing but work stuff and who lost interest and contact when we no longer worked together. I agree that jealousy is involved but I think it is also a pretty normal way that people get to know each other. They talk about what they have in common and it seems as though what these “friends” have in common is the school gossip. This could change over time or not. I worked for many years and found some real friends who actually care about what is going on with me. However, most people were just acquaintances who shared nothing but work stuff and who lost interest and contact when we no longer worked together.

]]> Comment on Back to School, Back to Stay-at-Homes & Work-Outside-the-Homes by Suzanne http://www.yodelingmamas.com/blog/?p=1838&cpage=1#comment-1982 Suzanne Wed, 08 Sep 2010 04:52:47 +0000 http://www.yodelingmamas.com/blog/?p=1838#comment-1982 I've been on both sides of the fence. Stay at home mom for 11 and then Working Mom (divorced) for 6; I think the great divide disappears when your kids get older as more of the SAH moms go back to work. I can remember being room mom and being pissed that it was all the SAH moms doing all the in classroom work. I'm now the working mom who is left out of conversations and not asked to join book clubs. I think each group is a little jealous of each other. Too bad. Bottom line is, you never know what goes on behind closed doors, or in someone's life or mind. Don't judge. I’ve been on both sides of the fence. Stay at home mom for 11 and then Working Mom (divorced) for 6; I think the great divide disappears when your kids get older as more of the SAH moms go back to work. I can remember being room mom and being pissed that it was all the SAH moms doing all the in classroom work. I’m now the working mom who is left out of conversations and not asked to join book clubs. I think each group is a little jealous of each other. Too bad. Bottom line is, you never know what goes on behind closed doors, or in someone’s life or mind. Don’t judge.

]]> Comment on Back to School, Back to Stay-at-Homes & Work-Outside-the-Homes by Rachel Burns http://www.yodelingmamas.com/blog/?p=1838&cpage=1#comment-1981 Rachel Burns Wed, 08 Sep 2010 02:10:17 +0000 http://www.yodelingmamas.com/blog/?p=1838#comment-1981 Bravo! I am glad to see I am not the only one who takes pride in both being a Mother & having a career. I would love to see this topic of working moms & stay at home moms finally put to rest. At the end of the day isnt fair to say we are all loving Mothers, no matter what we do during the day while our children are at school.... Couldnt have said it better michelle! Bravo! I am glad to see I am not the only one who takes pride in both being a Mother & having a career. I would love to see this topic of working moms & stay at home moms finally put to rest. At the end of the day isnt fair to say we are all loving Mothers, no matter what we do during the day while our children are at school…. Couldnt have said it better michelle!

]]> Comment on Back to School, Back to Stay-at-Homes & Work-Outside-the-Homes by Lynda Peil http://www.yodelingmamas.com/blog/?p=1838&cpage=1#comment-1980 Lynda Peil Wed, 08 Sep 2010 01:22:21 +0000 http://www.yodelingmamas.com/blog/?p=1838#comment-1980 What a couple of cuties, good for you!!! Lynda What a couple of cuties, good for you!!!

Lynda

]]> Comment on Nanny or Daycare? That is the Question… by Amy, Influencer Marketing, Sunnyvale office http://www.yodelingmamas.com/blog/?p=1803&cpage=1#comment-1976 Amy, Influencer Marketing, Sunnyvale office Tue, 07 Sep 2010 19:03:01 +0000 http://www.yodelingmamas.com/blog/?p=1803#comment-1976 We found that a nanny share was the perfect combination of personal attention and socialization. I hope you find a solution that works well for your family! We found that a nanny share was the perfect combination of personal attention and socialization. I hope you find a solution that works well for your family!

]]> Comment on A Working Mom’s Favorite “To Do” by Jeanne http://www.yodelingmamas.com/blog/?p=1759&cpage=1#comment-1934 Jeanne Wed, 04 Aug 2010 17:47:14 +0000 http://www.yodelingmamas.com/blog/?p=1759#comment-1934 Seriously the pic is too cute! Seriously the pic is too cute!

]]> Comment on The Mother of All Conferences by kim/hormone-colored days http://www.yodelingmamas.com/blog/?p=1717&cpage=1#comment-1903 kim/hormone-colored days Mon, 02 Aug 2010 17:27:41 +0000 http://www.yodelingmamas.com/blog/?p=1717#comment-1903 Thanks for a wonderful and informative event! I wrote about it, too. http://bit.ly/aJHbtW Thanks for a wonderful and informative event! I wrote about it, too. http://bit.ly/aJHbtW

]]> Comment on The Mother of All Conferences by Yahoo! Mother Board Summit Exceeds All Expectations | Yodel Anecdotal http://www.yodelingmamas.com/blog/?p=1717&cpage=1#comment-1727 Yahoo! Mother Board Summit Exceeds All Expectations | Yodel Anecdotal Fri, 23 Jul 2010 17:27:25 +0000 http://www.yodelingmamas.com/blog/?p=1717#comment-1727 [...] speaker) and #ymotherboard—on Twitter in San Francisco as they live blogged and tweeted from the Yahoo! Mother Board Summit on Friday, July [...] [...] speaker) and #ymotherboard—on Twitter in San Francisco as they live blogged and tweeted from the Yahoo! Mother Board Summit on Friday, July [...]

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